A very beautiful pointing to one’s pure awareness. Start at 4:20 and ends at about 44:00 for this one Italian woman for which we can all experience and perhaps learn...bit by bit in a great loving explanation. I advise earphones, for those easily distracted.
We all have seen some miraculous example of some disabled person
doing extraordinary things, like running a marathon with one leg or like when I
saw a boy with half of his brain(removed) learning to swim after his operation.
How does this happen? He or she accepted their loss of whatever and moved on.
This can even happen when you lose family and dear ones who pass, whether
expected or unexpectedly. This is not to whitewash any grief that happens in
the process, many times never seen by others, carried heavy in the heart for a
long time. Once you realize that you really have no control in life, and that
once you fully accept a death or a personal loss about your own health, you
become free of the grief that you seem to be hooked on. Even a sense of ease
comes when it appears that you have forgotten that grief. Often times it comes
in small doses at first, unknown consciously until that begins to overpower the
grief that you once held, when it gathers enough steam.
We have the power to choose acceptance earlier, if that is
what we truly desire, without confusing it with not honoring those things we have
lost in the form of guilt. This guilt that we feel is more about trying to
maintain the grief, in feeling form. We get hooked on feelings and it is harder to let go of a feeling than the actual
person or idea that we carry around with us. Often times waiting for exhaustion
to dictate a move to change, instead or when people get sick of you. One has
to look very deeply at what we truly want and that is happiness, which will
only comes with acceptance. It may take time off from work and life to let the loss settle completely in meditation, instead of stringing it along to explode in unexpected moments. Then it will allow you to honor those that passed, too. The
sooner the better when you consider how short our life is and the fact that you will have to...anyway.