My practice, which manifests itself for me mostly as a
gradual unfolding. It is very subtle, as we know patience is the first virtue. Perhaps you might
see one more second before you react allowing one to take the wiser path.
Steering one away from potential anger or further difficulties will hopefully
repeat more and more as a new happiness habit. That is because one is the
first victim of any difficult states of mind. I visited family for the second
time this year, and my sister noticed, and Mom felt the need to outline why my
life was difficult with my father. Meaning she felt comfortable, not pinned
down or accused…more relaxed. The extra second helped many times, but is
imperative to be rested and fed with my brain injury. I am no saint, always
perfecting and maintaining my wisdom intention goal before life comes to a
screeching halt.
I recently saw someone speak about healing traumas as an
essential first step on any path. Some traumas are passed down through every
generation, and for me it is imperative that they stop here even though I have
no children. I completed my second full course of Tomatis Mozart Therapy this
year, where we focused on my emotional traumas instead of trying to heal the
brain injury with a program designed for me. We both came to the conclusion the
happier and more resolved I am, the faster I heal. And what I don’t heal will
not bother me as much. All emotional expectations from previous life
experiences as well as current drop away thus letting the purity of my being
shine through. “Me” as I currently present myself, with less of the frustration
of being unable to communicate with speech.
Many years ago, when I returned home from the hospital, and
my lover then and I split, compounded my difficulties. I would roll in the “why me”, anger and crying running between each. I had started on my speech therapy, and acupuncture with the idea I need to realign my chi flow. Back then I was taking the bus to each. It was one day when I bussed home, laying
on my back looking up through a skylight I had in my home, exhausted from
crying that it became a bit clearer that this emotional moment was the furthest
from healing I needed to do to move on. Wisdom does come in
small tastes, and not a five-course meal. So my original intention carries deep down in my psyche was to live and heal that, and I would lean there when life presented
itself as a problem. Later another wisdom tidbit presented itself as “it is not always about
me” and lead me to helping others where I volunteered in post-stroke
readjustments in a hospital setting with new survivors, which I detailed in
past posts. I will never forget the young man paralyzed from the neck down from
a bike wreck. I wrote a heart felt letter to him, detailing why he
should never get down on himself and carry any blame, it could have been me
when I got my first dirt bike at 14. I saw myself in him. My letter said focus instead
on healing, be proud and happy to be alive. And try, try, try, and relax. I am still letting go, unfolding, becoming lighter and
laughing at myself and hopefully helping others.
